May 18th, 2011
Dear Coach Ken
Coach Ken,
Hi. It’s Jillian. Can we talk about Hubs for a couple minutes? What? We have to hurry because you are getting ready to meet Hubs for a workout? Ok, I will talk fast. I know you have somehow brainwashed convinced Hubs he needs to do a million miles a week and that training should be his number one priority. But here’s the thing, with your workouts being his Numero Uno; it is killing our relationship. He is ALWAYS gone. We NEVER spend any time together. I’m not kidding; we’ve only slept in together once since the snow left. And when he IS home all he wants to do is talk about training, blog about training and watch cycling… so the only time he actually does chores is when I’m on the brink of murdering him and even then he does the abbreviated version. For example: we moved into our house the end of February and he has yet to mow the grass in its entirety. Sure, he mows the front. Or the back. But not once has he completed the job from start to finish (complete with trimming) and clean up. In fact, just last night (while Hubs was at your “30 minute” open water swim) our neighbor asked me if Hubs wanted to BORROW a weed whipper for trimming—SERIOUSLY. I wish I was kidding.
What that? Hubs is getting so much better? Yes, I know running a 9 minute mile is a big accomplishment and I’m proud of him. But Coach Ken, Hubs has a baby on the way and a list a mile long of things we need to do before Baby Carter arrives. Wait, did I say before baby arrives? I meant before his sinus surgery the end of July. He couldn’t wouldn’t do the surgery any earlier because he didn’t want to miss race season (suuuure, he blamed it on vacation time but we all know the truth.) Soooo, now I will be 8 months pregnant when he can barely lift 4 lbs. And while changing out the nails for deck screws, rearranging the downstairs living room, painting/decorating the nursery, repaintng my old baby furniture for the guest bedroom, getting the sprinkler system fixed, scrapping/painting the front stoop, moving the satellite radio (I got for Christmas last year) to a more convenient location, and a million other things while Hubs is laying around watching the IRONMAN World Championship over and over does sounds like a great time—I would prefer we get it done sooner. Although, the way things are going, I’m going to be doing all those things by myself anyway so maybe I should just get started. Or call my Dad, you know, since I’m pregnant and most of those items are not “pregnancy approved” activities.
This isn’t your fault? Yeah, I know Hubs asked for your help. But last year, after the Branson 70.3 Hubs assured me this season would be better aka lighter. He said he would focus on the short course and make sure our family didn’t suffer. But then the winter came, the pain and misery from Branson 70.3 left his memory and he trains for 6+ hours every Saturday/ Sunday (and now that open water swims have commenced I’m guessing every Tuesday and Thursday evening as well.) I suppose I’m just hurt that disappointing you has turned into a bigger motivator than disappointing his wife.
I guess the point of this conversation is this: I was wondering if you have some sort of “training” plan that would allow you to come over and help him balance his life? Because, Hubs is dangerously close to needing his bicycle to keep him warm at night.
Let me know.
Jillian





















